Intentions can sometimes become unclear, especially when emotions are involved

"Hey um, I thought I'd call. 

Your question yesterday stirred up a lot in me, and I just want to ask why you asked it..?" 🤔 

A question that takes a lot of guts.

And what came out next was a good learning moment for both of us.

Asking for clarification is ballsy but VERY important

The night before we had talked about our goals for this year.

The next few weeks, months and longer. 📆 

What, why, the steps needed to get there, the options...

The limiting thoughts, challenges, obstacles...

A great time to dream, but also to work it out concretely, to spar, to get enthusiastic and to be accountable. 📈 

➡️ What had been my question?

"Hey, I don't hear anything in your plans for the coming months about what you have just started and put a lot of effort, time and energy into. Is that right?"

Ouch. 💢 

Yes, that hit hard.

We then took the time to let the emotions be and to dissect what was happening here.

The next day the question you read above followed.

At first I didn't know what was meant.

"It was just an observation, wasn't it? 

A question to help clarify, to hear how that worked?"

With a little digging we got to the core:

👉 My question had made such a big impact and raised uncertainties that my intention was not clear.

🔺 Was it disapproval?

🔺Irritation?

🔺Frustration?

💚 ... or just curiosity?

Fortunately, I was able to confirm the latter.

But it put me back on edge:

Even if you know each other well and there is a strong bond of trust...

🛑Intentions can sometimes become unclear, especially when emotions are involved! 🛑

That is why I also consider this in my communication training.

Basically the question is: 

💭 Does it make sense to learn communication techniques if the other person does not believe your good intention?

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