"But negative feedback isn’t kind, and I don’t like conflicts!"

"But negative feedback isn’t kind, and I don’t like conflicts!" We often avoid conflicts to maintain harmony. 💜

And fair enough, I recommend not escalating minor conflicts.

Road rage, for example, has never brought anyone closer together.

However, it’s precisely with your loved ones that addressing conflicts is crucial.

By not speaking up:

❌ you create space for assumptions,

❌ the truth becomes distorted, and

❌ you lose connection.

Both with them and with yourself.

Internally, a mental tally is quietly kept:

✔ Stayed silent again.

✔ Put myself in the background again.

✔ Had no input again.

You take yourself for granted……and the other person as well.

Because the other person might think it’s resolved.

They might think they’ve truly listened to you.

They might think you agree.

They might think you feel helped by this.

A trainer once said to me:

💭“Is there a more beautiful way to show love than by giving negative feedback?

Knowing that it might spark resistance, you still take the risk and share your thoughts with that person.

You give them the opportunity to reflect and consider if what you say might be true.

Yes, you could also be wrong, and it could backfire.

But even then, you’re not taking them for granted.”

This kind of mindset is increasingly lost in our society.

People-pleasing, saying what others want to hear, avoiding conflict… it’s become a habit.

💪 Are you ready to create a shift in your clinic together with me?

Let me know!