The difference between a choice and a decision... Do you know what it is?

The difference between a choice and a decision... Do you know what it is?

Yesterday, I had an intercollegial meeting (also known as coffee time) with fellow coach Kelvin Wolken.

Besides a similar background story and hobby (he, too, played volleyball at a high level), we share many views on personal and professional development.

Somewhere in the middle of our conversation, he casually dropped this gem.

A few words that stuck with me for the rest of the day:

“There’s a difference between a choice and a decision.”

Huh? 🤔

“A decision is always rational and therefore doesn’t come from your authenticity.

First, you make a choice, and then you take the decisions needed to achieve it.”

🤯Wow, that hit home.

Because the message is clear:

1️⃣ Make a choice that aligns with you, your values, what you stand for, and what you want to achieve.

2️⃣ Only then bring in your rational side for all the details: How do you get there? What needs to be done?

What we truly want is so often buried under piles of “yes, buts.”“Too expensive, too far, too difficult…” ❌

Or this classic: “Unrealistic…”

Sure, that’s fine. 🤷‍♂️

At least it gives you certainty.

Certainty that it’s never going to happen. 👍

If you’re willing to pay that price, be my guest.

But if you’re not?

Maybe it’s time to take action.

Let’s talk.