“But that’s not how I meant it at all!" – Part 3

“But that’s not how I meant it at all!" – Part 3

And there it is, the dreaded C-word: 𝑪𝑶𝑵𝑭𝑳𝑰𝑪𝑻. ❌

But it *doesn’t have* to come to that! Here’s why ⬇️

Miscommunication.

One person says A, the other understands B, and things go wrong.

Oops.

You’ve often seen me type “Oops.”

I prefer it over words like:

- Mistake ❌

- Failure ❌

- Dumb ❌

- …

We usually say “Oops” to children when we don’t want to make a big deal out of something.

By saying it, we mean:

“I know this wasn’t your intention; it’s okay.”

In other words:

“I believe you that you didn’t mean it that way.” 🤝

And that is precisely why I keep using “Oops.”

My friends will confirm it: I always see the good in people. 💜

That doesn’t mean I always agree with them.

But I assume that whatever they do, they’re not doing it intentionally to harm me.

What does this create?

🔸 Partnership

- By definition, you start looking for a joint solution.

🔹 Understanding

- With such a foundation, you become curious and learn to see the other person’s point of view.

🔸 Lightness

- By not dwelling on it, not getting annoyed, and not wasting energy on those thoughts, you free up a lot of mental space.

🔹 Open communication

- It sets the tone for honest and sincere communication with each other.

And don’t forget: this goes both ways!

➡️ If the other person adopts the same mindset, they will also respond to your (negative) feedback in this way.

The result is a positive spiral of all the above. 💫

How great is that?

Would you like to implement more of this in your practice?

Send me a message!

Let’s make the difference together.